Showering: The Mama Shower

If you tremble at the idea of measuring your friend’s tummy with toilet paper, or browsing the endless aisles of baby stores, toss out those old-timey visions of a baby shower and throw a mama shower.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

Girls night out: my girlfriends took me to a sexy French bistro and showered me with their favorite childhood books and my baby bedding set. We dressed up and I got to sniff their cocktails. Unforgettable.

Day at the spa: Everyone chips for mama's treatment and away you go. But make sure she’s clear to have a pregnancy massage or facial treatment. Or, host it at your place with stations for face, hands and feet with delicious snacks and alcohol-free cocktails.

Movie night: If your mama-to-be is on bed rest, gather up the posse and head to her place with a movie, popcorn and snacks. She’ll weep with gratitude. (So bring Kleenex, too.)

After-delivery party: Perhaps you just couldn’t get together before the baby … it happens, but this might even be more fun because - unless she’s breast feeding - the new mama-in-action can drink! Have the group chip in for a fancy bottle of bubbly and then ask all those delivery-room details you're dying to know.